Dealing with the Pain and Darkness in Life?

I hope and pray that this message meets a need in your life. We are living in difficult and dark times for so many people. If you are one of them, I want you to realize that you are not alone. Maybe God wants to use you to encourage someone else battling the darkness. Hard times will come and the darkness will find each one of us. At some point in life, we all will face some kind of pit. It may be a pit that we have dug with our own hands of wrong choices or it could be a pit that has been uniquely designed for us by the enemy. 

“I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God.” Psalm 40:1-3,    

What can we do to find hope in the midst of the darkness? We can become bitter and blame God for the pain or we can give up and wallow in the mire and mud of that slimy pit. Some of you maybe guilty of plastering a smile on your face, gritting your teeth and denying that the pit even exists. However, the choice we should make is to trust God, knowing He will deliver us in and from the pit.   

God’s grace turns defeat into victory, tragedy into triumph and weakness into strength by providing real power over circumstances. People without Christ can’t muster up enough courage and human strength to get through a trial. God will not only enable us to survive the hard times, He wants us to thrive in and because of them.

Joy is not an earthly treasure but a heavenly gift from our loving Father who is committed to the joy of His children.Some of the most joyful people I know have suffered the most because they have learned not to live on explanations but on promises – the promises of God.

Jesus wants to give us a life of joy, pits and all. We need to remember that joy is the deeply-rooted confidence that God is in control and that our inner attitudes do not have to reflect our outer circumstances. We can find joy in the pit.


Having the Mind of Christ!

The Word of God says, “Let every man be a liar, and let God be true.” Whenever God allows us to face the fiery furnaces in this life, our flesh nature makes it hard on us to trust in God. In our hearts, we still believe that God is good, and that He desires only good things for us. Life can deal us some serious blows that are very hard to endure, much less overcome. Wouldn’t it be so nice if Jesus would just protect us so that we would never have to have another bad day or hear an evil report? Wake up your daydreaming! We all live in a fallen world. Evil things happen to good people, and good things happen to evil people. 



“But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.” 

~ Hebrews 11:6


You might be saying wait a minute; didn’t Jesus say that there was none good but God? Yet, God still gave His Son for us, and Jesus still gave His life for us while we were evil. Thank God He doesn’t just bless good folks, or we would still be lost with no hope. What you will find is this: there is no justice in this world, but God is just. More than that, God requires the just (Christians) to walk by faith and not by sight or feelings.


All you must know when facing a trial is what God is speaking to you by His Word and the Holy Spirit. When you have a Word from the Lord, and you know that it is impossible for God to leave or forsake you, the attack of Satan will only make you stronger in your faith, not weaker. God has predestined us to be conformed into the image of Christ. Therefore, when you go through what might seem like (hell) at times in your saved life know that the old man is being crucified, and the new man is emerging out of the flames of affliction.


The end result of your battle is victory over the Devil. You might be thinking, “I thought he was defeated at Calvary?” If you believe that, you are absolutely correct, but your carnal mind doesn’t know that yet. Our faith doesn’t give us so much victory over the Devil as it does victory over the mind that he offered to Adam and Eve when they sinned against God’s will in the beginning. We used to be alienated from the life of God because of the carnal mind. Once we pass through the fire and overcome the flood, our faith in God renews our minds and we become one with God in our minds as well as our spirits.

With each trial we are separating ourselves from the strongholds of this world and becoming one with Christ through our faith. Instead of trials taking us further from Christ, through faith, they bring us closer to Christ.

Having Hope in God’s promises to be Fulfilled!

So many of us our waiting for God’s promises to be fulfilled, but we must wait with hope and that is why we have God’s Word recorded for us, so that we might learn what God has done through others in the past. By studying how God has responded to others in the past, it gives us hope for how God will respond to us in the future. 

“Such things were written in the Scriptures long ago to teach us. And the Scriptures give us hope and encouragement as we wait patiently for God’s promises to be fulfilled.” Romans 15:4

Reading the story of the trial of Job should give us hope that God can turn even the worst situation around for HIS glory. Reading the story of Abraham having to wait 25 years for the birth of his son Isaac should give us hope when we are waiting on God’s perfect timing in our own life. Reading the story of Joseph and how he was betrayed and lied about gives us hope that God really does work all things together for HIS good for those who love HIM and are called according to HIS purposes.(Romans 8:28)

It is easy to hear verses out of the scripture and become dejected because they seem like they are impossible to fulfill. However, God did not just give us a bunch of dos and don’ts, He also gave us real live examples of those who demonstrated many of the principles on how we are supposed to live our lives. When we learn a principle out of the Bible, we will often find an example in the scriptures of someone who demonstrated that principle for HIS glory.

Our hope does not come from our own strength. Our hope does not come from our own talents and abilities. Our hope does not come from how good of a person we might be. No, our hope comes from our patience that we develop as we wait upon God. As we grow in our relationship with God, we learn just who God is and what HE has in store for us.

God desires our obedience more so than our sacrifices. God is not looking for how many rules you can set up for yourself so that you might be the most spiritual. God desires that you learn to maintain a right relationship with HIM and allow HIM to guide us every step of the way.

Strength when you have none!

Whatever is overwhelming you in your life right now has a purpose to bring you closer to God. The winds of trouble and the storms of  your life must all submit to the will of God for you. Our battle will never be stronger than the refuge and strength of your God! The bible tells us, “Weeping may remain for a night, but joy comes in the morning”. (Psalm 30:5)  That means that every painful struggle has a timing for it to end.  And it is only then that you will understand the power of  God whose love for you  never failed. 

Though I walk in the midst of trouble, you preserve my life (Psalm 138:7)

Have you ever been in a painful trial in life , which made you feel like you were all alone?  The storms you face in this world can sometimes make you feel isolated and without hope. And, although well-meaning friends want to help you, there often  is little that they can do. You really want to believe that God is with you in that battle, but that may be hard to do when the enemy surrounds you on all sides!  When you come to these lonely places, it is then that you must take all thoughts captive to the truth of the promises of Christ!

All of the battles that you face as a believer are fought on holy ground because the power of God is with you. You are in the company of the army of heavenly forces who know well how to deal with the enemy. You are never left to fight alone. As David understood that God was giving him his victory, so must you know that you are a conqueror against all that comes against you. You must never let your situation cause you to be anxious. Worry is nothing but the whispers of lies from a defeated enemy!  Satan wants you to make you feel alone and hopeless so that he can get a foothold into your mind. Don’t give him access.

The truth is all the force that you need to defeat your feelings of hopelessness. Your financial struggles, marriage problems, health issues, addictions or heartaches are all under the power of a Sovereign God who knows how to take you safely through them.

It is the lonely places that put you next to the heart of your God. For it is when you have nowhere else to turn that you realize that God’s power was all that you ever needed. Jesus paid the price so that those who believed would be made more than a conqueror in all the battles of this world.

Viewing Adversity from God’s Perspective!

God uses adversity to mold us into the image of Jesus Christ. So why not tell the Lord, “Lord, I don’t like it, but by faith I rejoice that You are up to something good in my life”? Ask Him to reveal what He’s teaching you in the midst of your trial. Then, look for Scripture that encourages you and helps you focus on His truth. When we’re facing a trial in our lives, the last thing we want is someone telling us to rejoice! But James is not telling us to be joyous because of the trial. James assumes that his readers are committed to spiritual growth. When they understand that trials lead to more spiritual growth, he knows they’ll rejoice because of the end result—growth! The testing of our faith produces endurance. Endurance is a maturing factor. The term “perfect” carries with it the idea of maturity. When people are forced to endure hardship, they mature in some fashion. 

“Dear brother and sisters, consider it all joy, when troubles come your way. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.” James 1:2-4 

James warns us there is a way to interrupt this maturing process. He instructs his readers to “let endurance have its perfect result.” The implication is that by reacting to adversity incorrectly, we short-circuit the maturing process. I know of several people who are mad at God because of some adversity that has come their way. The tragedy in each case is that they have put themselves on the sidelines spiritually. You may be thinking, That’s ridiculous. How could anyone be so enthusiastic about growing spiritually as to rejoice when confronted with adversity? If that’s your attitude, this passage is for you:

But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him. But he must ask in faith without any doubting, for the one who doubts is like the surf of the sea, driven and tossed by the wind. For that man ought not to expect that he will receive anything from the Lord, being a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways (James 1:5-8).

James realized it would sound strange to tell people to rejoice in the midst of trials. So, he followed it up by saying, “Hey, if you find that hard to accept, ask the Lord to make it clear to you.” That’s what He means by asking for wisdom. Wisdom is the ability to see things from God’s perspective. Many of us have trouble accepting this connection between adversity and growth. It is hard for us to accept that God is so intent on bringing us to maturity that He’s willing to let us suffer. But, in His economy, adversity is a small price to pay for the benefits of spiritual growth.

As we study the passages such as this one we will find the real issue becomes clear to us. Are we going to take God at His word and begin viewing adversity from His perspective? Are you persevering? Are you enduring? Or, are you resisting? Are you mad at God for what He’s doing? My friends, God wants to use adversity to mature you to the point where your character becomes a mirror image of Christ’s.

When you feel your prayers are unheard.

David was seriously ill in body, deeply distressed in mind and spiritually sapped.. by the mounting pressures and numerous enemies that surrounded him on every side, which caused him to pen his distressing lament: “have mercy on me O Lord and heal my bones.. my soul is greatly troubled.” But David had not yet come to a full understanding that God is an ever present help in time of trouble, that the mercies God are new every morning, and that He is faithful to hear and respond to the cries of all His children – but He does it in His own time and in His own way. 

“The LORD has heard my plea; the LORD will answer my prayer.” Psalm 6:9

David felt that heaven was deaf to his cries.. so that in the morning and at night, his pillow was drenched with his tears of self-pity.. Nevertheless the threats from his enemies were intense, real and menacing, and he bemoaned the serious effect that their influence was having on his health and well-being.

While-ever David had his eye on the enemy and the gravity of his situation he discovered that his strength was sapped; his sleep was disturbed; his fear mounted; self-pity increased and the peace of God, which passes understanding had fled far from him. But as soon as he refocused his heart on the Lord and remembered the many precious promises of God, which are ‘yes’ and ‘amen’ in Christ, he was able to prayer effectively – with thanksgiving and praise and confidence. David came to an understanding that God was right with him in the midst of all his trials and tribulations.. and that God had heard and received his prayer. And so David rejoiced with thanksgiving and praise.. and prayed: The LORD has heard my supplication; the LORD will receive my prayer.

When like David we are encompassed by our enemies.. ill in body; distressed in mind and spiritually sapped, we should remember that the many precious promises of God, to all His children.. are ‘yes’ and ‘amen’ in Christ. And let us never forget that IN HIM we have access to the heavenly throne of grace, for mercy to find help in time of need. But we need to approach Him reverently, prayerfully and confident that He hears and answers prayer – but our prayers and supplications should be done with a heart of praise and thanksgiving – a heart that not only trust Him to keep His WORD, but a heart ready to say, your will not mine be done.

God that will never renege on His promises

God is not slack concerning His promises to you. He has not forgotten about you. The very same words I have have used to encourage myself time and time again, I use today to encourage you. It is not easy trusting a God that you don’t see. It is not always easy trusting that He is concerned about what concerns you. But the truth of the matter is we serve a God that will never renege on His promises. 

So do not throw away this confident trust in the Lord. Remember the great reward it brings you! Patient endurance is what you need now, so that you will continue to do God’s will. Then you will receive all that he has promised. Hebrews 10:35-36

Paul tells us in our scripture reference not to throw away our confident trust in the Lord. Confident trust is the belief that something will happen based on God’s character. Again, He does not falter on His promises. Our reliance then should be on His ability to bring what He promises to pass.

So right now, in this very moment, as hard as it seems to keep believing, I urge you not to throw away your fearless confidence. For, you have need of patient endurance. It is this endurance that helps us to bear up under difficult circumstances without compromising. It is this endurance that prompts us not to give up when we are weary. We will reap the harvest that has been promised to us if we just hang on in there. I challenge you today to stick it out, stick with God’s plan. Stay consistent, keep trusting, keep believing, keep fighting, until you see the promised completion.

When you find yourself struggling in your faith, make it a daily habit to find a brother or sister that needs to be strengthen and begin to pray with and for them. As you encourage them, watch God begin to pour back into your life.

Hear my cry!

In this Psalm below we encounter the author pouring out his heart to God in a time of great need. His heart is faint within him, he is searching for a place of refuge and safety and therefore deeply desires that the Lord would hear him and respond. As I read this psalm, I’m struck by the fact that we often reserve this posture of prayer for the “big moments” of crisis or trial in life. Though we may not say it, we act as though there is a limited number of times we can come before the Lord in prayer. It is a shortsighted mindset that tells us God’s love can run out and we can exhaust His willingness to be near to us in our times of need. 

“Hear my cry, O God; listen to my prayer. From the end of the earth I call to you, when my heart is faint. Lead me to the rock that is higher than I; for you are my refuge, a strong tower against the enemy. Let me abide in your tent forever, find refuge under the shelter of your wings. For you, O God, have heard my vows; you have given me the heritage of those who fear your name.” Psalm 61:1-5 



When we fail to come to God in prayer we foster a posture of self-sufficiency. We save up our prayers for the times of crisis and overwhelming trial, and in the times in between, we act as though we simply must figure it out on our own. And so we toughen up and take matters into our own hands. Over time, our normal rhythm of life, therefore, becomes one of independence and self-help, with divine intervention coming only in truly extraordinary circumstances.


The Psalms push against this autonomy and invite us to learn afresh how to be people for whom prayerful dependence becomes the daily rhythm of our lives.


For this to happen, two things are required of us. The first is to trust God. We must trust that He is, in fact, good. That He will not lead us astray or give us a stone when we ask for a fish (Luke11:11). If we do not believe that God is good, we will never fully trust Him in every area of our lives. As we encounter Him in his goodness and faithfulness, we are then, secondly, invited into a lifetime of learning to release control. Self-sufficiency and control are so closely related. If we think everything is up to us, we will do all that we can to guarantee outcomes by minimizing variables and vulnerabilities. And yet, if God is who he says He is, we can learn to trust His plan even when we feel exposed or uncertain of how it will work out.


This Psalm reminds us that the Lord is a rock that is higher than we are, a strong tower, and a source of refuge for those who are weary. Turn to the Lord today and allow Him to lead you out of a place of self-sufficient control and lead you into a posture of trust and gratitude for his faithful guidance and goodness in your life.


God is able to abundantly bless in all things at all times. God is able to provide what is needed for every good work. He is able when we are unable. He is able to soften our heart when we are unable to listen. He is able to illumine our thoughts when we are unable to understand the truth. He is able to love us when we are unable to love ourselves. God is able. Yes! His Spirit is able to intercede on our behalf when we are unable to pray. My Lord Jesus is ready, willing and able. 

And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work. 2 Corinthians 9:8

So, what are we to do when God is able, but unwilling? What if His help seems delayed or unresponsive? First, we are reassured knowing the character of our Heavenly Father is 100% trustworthy. He is good and He desires what’s best for His children. Furthermore, our will does not always align with the Lord’s will. Free will is free to chose badly. Thus, we require the Spirit’s ‘will alignments’ by renewing our mind and purifying our heart. Clarity comes from cleansing and repentance. God is able, but we may not be ready, so we remain steady in prayer.

Whatever you are facing, your Heavenly Father is able to face down. In your fear He will give you faith and courage to meet your challenge with grace and commitment. In your new opportunity He will teach you the skill of listening, so you can learn to go further, faster. In your conflict He will model for you the art of peacemaking, so you can bring harmony to a hurting home. In your success, He will keep you grateful and humble through your generous giving. God is able to bless you beyond measure, so you can be a trusted pass through for His ample supply!

“I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.” Philippians 4:13

More than a Conqueror 

We need to thank the Lord that He has given us power, in the Holy Spirit, to overcome adversity, discouragement, and every spiritual attack that besets us, and to take our eyes off our past defeats and look to His love and the power of His resurrection available to us today. Remember today we are more than a conqueror in Christ Jesus our Lord. 

No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us..” Romans 8:37

In this passage of scripture, Paul is not here referring to just his own victory over the problems he personally faced in life. He said WE are more than conquerors. Each one of us as believers can be more than conquerors, regardless of the battle or circumstances we face in life. We can have the same testimony and experience of victory as Paul. This conquering power – the ability to overcome, defeat, and control – comes not by our own ability but through the grace and power of the one that loved us. As we rely fully on Jesus Christ, we too can experience this supreme victory in our daily lives.

God does not want us to come through the battles so worn and beaten up that we can’t enjoy the victory. Thank the Lord, we can come out of the battles just like the scripture says: MORE THAN CONQUERORS. We can face the trials of the day with praise in heart in knowing that we can and will overcome.

Today see yourself coming against all the difficulties that you are having. See Jesus right there with you giving you the strength, courage and skills to overcome all your foes. Feel the joy of victory. Sense the confidence in knowing that with Jesus you are more than a conqueror. Let the peace and joy from knowing that God loves you and helps you in your hardest time, fill your heart. Proclaim out loud, “I am more than a conqueror in Christ Jesus!”