I decided a few years ago to try and love the unlovable. When someone is very hard to love or even like, it usually stems from a heart that has been hurt or broken. It doesn’t matter if the hurt is real or imagined…it still hurts. The negativity and rejection they have built up in their hearts has caused them make themselves unpleasant to be around. But Jesus tells us “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you” (Matt 5:43-44). As followers of Christ we are commanded to repay evil or insult with blessing. 1 Peter 3:9 says “Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing”. Wow…this is powerful stuff….because you were called to do this so that you may inherit a blessing!
There was a lady at work that no one liked, she was mean and negative all the time. I was determined to make her my friend. I always spoke kind to her even when she was rude and hateful to me. I complimented her on the way she looked every day and told her what a valuable asset she was to our department and how much she helped me out. Eventually we became friends and I found out she was bitter because she had a very bad first marriage and she couldn’t have children. She said she was a Christian so I always tried to point out her blessings in life and eventually she because to see and acknowledge them herself. We went to different departments at work but after a few years, we were working together again. Everyone in the new department really liked her and talked about what a wonderful person she was to be around. I know that it was God’s hand because He sent people, including me, into her life to lift her up and help her to start feeling love instead of negativity.
A feeling of negative about yourself or your life can prevent a child of God from receiving love. But you are accepted in the Beloved, and whom the Son has set free is free indeed; free to choose love, free to give love and free to receive love. You can exchange negative energy for positive! The secret is to focus on the blessings in life and on the Father, who has provided those blessings. If you start loving Him with your entire being; then love others, then you can start to love yourself. Accept God’s love and forgiveness; He has lavishly bestowed His love upon you. Ask the Holy Spirit to heal the wounds and hurts from the past, and deliberately choose being accepted, choose feeling accepted, loved and cherished. Say to yourself “on the authority of God’s Word affirm: I am accepted, loved and highly favored of the Lord and I accept myself just as I am. I am free to love and receive love!”
You see once you grasp a hold of the truth of Romans 8:38-39 “And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.” your life will never be the same.
He loves us with an everlasting love and we are drawn to Him with His unfailing love. Jeremiah 31:3 says “Long ago the LORD said to Israel: “I have loved you, my people, with an everlasting love. With unfailing love I have drawn you to myself.” Forgive yourself and others and accept that unfailing love Jesus has to offer. Look to the Father and receive the love He has for you!